Chinese Energetic Medicine by Grace

[Bobi]

Elder parent care

Hi Grace - yes, the Race poem is great. Makes me tear every time.

Can you help me get clear on how best to help my 81 year old mother? She's in good health, still drives (in good light), has an active social life, many friends, likes meeting new people and trying new experiences and is truly treasured by many. I'm blessed to call her my good friend as well.

Dad died 11 years ago and we have the typical questions of how long can she stay in her own home or when is it time to consider other options, etc. But right now my thoughts are about her body structure. She's getting more what I call "hinky". She relies more and more on her cane, looks frail in how she gets around and has a couple fingers on her right hand going numb. She's been catching her toe and taking falls frequently enough for concern. She is going to a fabulous Chiropractor/healer which helps but I think she needs help buidling some muscle mass and agility. PATHs isn't the answer. She got rid of her computer among other things.

I'm encouraging her to return to swim classes which she enjoys and we've talked about having a trainer come to the house. She's game for most ideas yet we stymie at what to do and who to contact or get busy with our lives and redirect. Could you test for what would be most helpful (and fun) for keeping her active lifestyle with ease and agility and would help build her own confidence in those same regards? With a clear path perhaps we can both focus on a plan at get started on it.

Her Macular Degeneration is also a worry to her. Reading is getting progressively difficult and losing her eyesight is the one conversation that makes her lip quiver. Any tests you can direct towards that is appreciated as well.

Is this okay - asking for someone else this way? I feel somewhat that I am betraying a confidence or wonder if I'm overstepping some cosmic bounds. I could tell her all this and she'd be okay with it though we'd probably redirect conversation again (because of awkwardness?) and get to chatting about other things.

Thank you very much. I look forward to hearing what testing tells you.

Bobi

[Grace]

A Special Post From Kchannar!

"The Race"

"Quit! Give up!
You're beaten!"
They shout at me, and plead"
There's just too much against you now.
This time you can't succeed."

And as I start to hang my head
In front of failure's face
My downward fall is broken by
The memory of a race.

And hope refills my weakened will
As I recall that scene
For, just the thought of that short race
Rejuvenates my being.

A children's race, young boys, young men
Now, I remember well,
Excitement, sure!
But also fear,It wasn't hard to tell.

They all lined up so full of hope
Each thought to win that race,
Or, tie for first, if not that,
At least take second place.

And fathers watched from off the side
Each cheering for his son.
And each boy hoped to show his dad,that he would be the one.
The whistle blew, and off they went

Young hearts and hopes afire
To win, to be the hero there
Was each young boy's desire.
And one boy in particular,
Whose dad was in the crowd,

Was running near the head and thought:
"My dad will be so proud!"
But as they speeded down the field
Across a shallow dip
The little boy who thought to win,
Lost his step and slipped.

Trying hard to catch himself,
His hands flew out to brace
And 'mid the laughter of the crowd
He fell flat on his face.

So, down he fell, and with him hope- he couldn't win it now -
Embarrassed, sad, he only wished
To disappear somehow.

But, as he fell, his dad stood up,
And showed his anxious face,
Which to the boy so clearly said:"Get up and win the race."

He quickly rose, no damage done,- behind a bit, that's all -
And ran with all his mind and might
To make up for his fall.

So, anxious to restore himself- to catch up and to win -
His mind went faster than his legs;
He slipped and fell again!

He wished, then, he had quit before
With only one disgrace.
"I'm hopeless as a runner now;
I shouldn't try to race.

But, in the laughing crowd he searched
And found his father's face.
That steady look that said again!
"Get up and win the race."

So, up he jumped, to try again-
ten yards behind the last -
"If I'm to gain those yards," he thought'
I've got to move real fast."

Exceeding everything he had
He gained back eight or ten,
But trying so, to catch the lead,
He slipped and fell again!

Defeat! He lay there silently-
a tear dropped from his eye -
"There is no sense in running more;
Three strikes, I'm out, why try?"

The will to rise had disappeared
All hope had fled away
So far behind; so error prone
A loser all the way.

"I've lost, so what's the use," he thought
"I'll live with my disgrace."
But, then he thought about his dad,
Who, soon, he'd have to face.

"Get up!" an echo sounded low,
"Get up, and take your place
You were not meant for failure here,
Get up, and win the race."

With borrowed will, "Get up," it said
"You haven't lost at all.
For winning is no more than this;
To rise each time you fall."

So, up he rose to run once more,
And with a new commit
He resolved that win, or lose,
At least he wouldn't quit.

So far behind the others now-
the most he'd ever been -
Still, he gave it all he had,
And ran as though to win.

Three times he'd fallen stumbling.
Three times he'd rose again.
Too far behind to hope to win
He still ran to the end.

They cheered the winning runner,
As he crossed the line first place,
Head high, and proud, and happy.
No falling, no disgrace.

But, when the fallen youngster
Crossed the line last place,
The crowd gave him the greater cheer
For finishing the race.

Even though he came in last.
With head bowed head low, unproud,
You would have thought he won the race
To listen to the crowd.

And to his dad, he sadly said,
"I didn't do so well."
"To me, you won!" his father said,
"You rose each time you fell."

And now when things seem dark and hard,
And difficult to face.
The memory of that little boy
Helps me to win my race.

For all of life is like that race
With ups and downs and all,
And all you have to do to win,
Is rise each time you fall.
__________________
Kiran

I could not help but post again this fabulous poem!! Thank you so very much Kchannar!!

[marnyka]

Thanks everyone for the responses!!!!

I just wanted to thank everyone for the encouraging word and corrections. This place is the only place that I currently have to share the changes going on and have them be understood. I get to talk to my husband too (don't want to leave him out) I try sharing the idea of higher self/godself or manifesting, LOA and I get some interesting looks

So thanks everyone for your posts about yourself, they are always helpful.

[zartgirl]

Welcome

Hi! I am new and have a severe hernia, could you help? Outside of Houston TX at the moment! Thanks in advance!







Sincerely, Kevin(Yoda)

Welcome my new friend! Glad you made it here! I will start to do some clearing on it tonight and know that Grace starts as soon as she reads it with corrections, so even if she does not answer right away, she is on it! Way cool isn't it!

Look forward to getting to know you more here!

Blessings zartgirl Sallyjane

[Bobi]

Blake - Freewill Astrology

Bobi....That Free Will Astrology look really interestingto mee! Maybe its just all the pretty colors! Have you had you cart done there. What did you think?How was it different from a regular chart....maybe I should read more...Thanks for the info I love it when a link to a new "modality" or visionary pops up in here!!

Peace Blake

Blake - I've never had a chart done from Freewill Astrology, I just visit periodically to check out the weekly horoscope. Rob Brezny, the author, has a wonderfully open and edgy way about everything he wrties.

I first learned of him through his poetic beat prose piece called "This is the Perfect Moment". I found a copy of it here... *This is a perfect moment* by Rob Brezny - tribe.net

Here's a exerpt from the middle of the work...

...
We need truths in their wild state,
insurrectionary beauty that excites our curiosity,
outrageous goodness that drives us to perform
heroic acts of lusty compassion,
ingenious love that endlessly transforms us,
tricky freedom that is never permanent
but must be reinvented and reclaimed every day,
and a totally-serious-yet-always-laughing justice
that schemes and dreams about how to
diminish the suffering and increase the joy
of every sentient being.

Here's one for you:
In the New World you will know through and through
that life is crazily in love with you --
life is wildly and innocently in love with you.
In the New World,
you will know beyond a doubt
that thousands of secret helpers are angling to turn you into the
gorgeous curiosity you were born to be.
But then here's the loaded question.
The love that life eternally floods you with has not exactly been
unrequited, but there's room for you to be more demonstrative.
If life is wildly and innocently in love with you,
are you prepared to start loving life back the way it loves you?
In the New World, you will.

In the New World, you will reject paranoia with
all of your smart heart.
Instead, you will embrace Pronoia.
Which is the opposite of paranoia.
Pronoia is the sneaking suspicion
that the whole living world is conspiring
to shower you with rowdy blessings.
Pronoia is the dawning perception that life is a conspiracy
to liberate you from ignorance,
and fill you with love,
...

[belle99]

Grace,

I'm doing a whole new routine with my skin care that is completely natural--eliminating even health food store products that I previously thought were "helping." Now, I am applying tea tree oil, oregon grape root tincture, chamomile tea, to blemishes, and hemp seed oil to the peeling left by harsh treatments. I am also taking the oregon grape root, chamomile, and hemp seed oil internally. I also installed a shower filter to remove chlorine. I use a small amount of mineral powder makeup to cover the blemishes.

Do you think I'm ready to go off of the Clear Skin module? I'm kind of afraid to, but I sure want to just do what's right for my skin and no longer need that module...so I can switch to a fun module!

Thanks!

[belle99]

Here's a metaphor: in the past, my efforts to consciously author positive feelings and thoughts was like trying to shout across a crowded place trying to get someone on the other side to hear me. The "background noise" that was winning out was all the years of conscious and unconscious negative beliefs and memories amplifying more of the same negativity into the universe.

Wow, it's amazing how this all works. I'm reading Blake's post, so amazed by him at his courage and strength and willingness, and so I decide to follow belle's links and then see the above quote. It is exactly how I feel.... it's always such a wonderful feeling when you can say, yes, that's exactly it after not quite putting your finger on it for so long. Nothing overly dramatic just a connection... I just find it all so amazing how we all work together, without ever realizing it, to give each other what we need just by being who we are and being honest.

Thanks to everyone who is contributing here, whether they know it or not.

Kim

I'm so glad that my ramblings have helped others!

[Yoda]

Hi! I am new and have a severe hernia, could you help? Outside of Houston TX at the moment! Thanks in advance!







Sincerely, Kevin(Yoda)

[KimJ]

Ahhh.. just thanks!

Such wonderful things are being shared here - such amazing, fascinating, and enlightening reading! I just want to thank you all for opening up and sharing. I'm learning so much and can feel it changing how I'm thinking. While I've read a lot of books I haven't applied much of what I've read - more like, finish one book and it's time move on to the next one. I don't know if things haven't "clicked" in those books or what but I'm seeing my impatience and skepticism is creating a lot of resistance... perhaps I just haven't been ready... Among other things though, I'm seeing a persistent message in the need for pure faith but wow is that hard to come by with my pesky, analytical mind always having something to say! I've said it before but again it just seems so apparent to me that I've got a battle of wills going on - as of course we all do - the ego versus spiritual, but I've been listening to a lot of Hay House Radio lately trying to drown out the ego! LOL

Anyway, I had nothing in particular to say, but wanted to express thanks to Blake, Adrienne, Sallyjane, and Grace for continuing to express their insights and ongoing help.

Have a great day!
Kim

[zartgirl]

Blake, I just thought about this...

Blake,
You asked a question, and I took note of it, and filed the note in my brain... It just came back to me! It was about the addictions!

I think all of us in some way here can identify with what you wrote, even if we don't want to admit that something has a hold on us!

I have struggled with sweets and chocolate for years! I recently discovered extreme dark chocolate, and I like to allow myself about two ounces or less a day. This chocolate has 60+ % Cacoa in it and very litte sugar. It is very yummy and my kids even enjoy it. That is what I eat when I am "being good" and eating right, but if you have read a recent post, well I have been struggling with this issue again. Grace is actually doing corrections on me for this situation. Mine is very emotionally charged and as I go farther and farther down this rabbit hole I clear more and more of the emotional issues, I will need less and less of this stuff that I try to fill my need for connection to the source. You will be the same way! Grace can make adjustments and probably already is making those adjustments on you also. I have found this last week that I am desiring less and less the sweets sound good. I still have some from time to time, but I am slowly starting to drink tea instead of hot cocoa. I can see soon that I will have little or NO desire for these foods. I suspect as time goes on I will start to crave veggies and fruits and the likes also.

I use the process from BL book when I am craving something sweet and sugarie. I am sure using the process in this manner will also help you overcome the obstacles and fears that plague you as of now! Just keep plugging away through the BL book, if you have the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle it is also very good and they are a powerful combination together. You are in the right place right now, and you will bust loose from these strong holds you have in your life! No amount of rules can help us break free, instead it is the opposite logical that works... it is all about vibrations, and energy! Start thanking yourself / God for setting you free!!! Do this all day long and you will be amazed one day you will look back and see you have been free! This is helpful to me too, especially when I go to the mailbox and I have not quite gotten the letter I need for my housing, and the likes. I just keep thanking myself / God for the new home he is giving me!

You will soon look back and be amazed at the journey you took, and be so thankful that you started on the hot plate. Oh YEA!

Blessings Sallyjane zartgirl

[Blake]

Infinate blanket...take me to your weaver!

Grace !!!

YOu know, reading alot of the responses to your corrections and their joy and gratitude, it all sounded so nice but I didnt think itd be like that for me.
The slow learner that I am, I thought my gratitude and joy would have to simmer and soften for (?)... a while... in the crock pot of my heart before i might bubble profusely over with joy.

I guess I was wrong. As I mentioned earlier the past couple days have looked, felt, tasted better than I remember feeling for years...like since childhood. What DID you do? That wasnt even my epic melodrama you corrected! so ...I'm going to break out the smiley Icons here cuz you deserve it! .... ... I dont usually emoticon all that much but something is shifting...

I had a thought today there was one early piece of "my" story ("How the molest was won!"--how I conquered my inner wilderness to find... I created the whole God bless-ed thing!) that I forgot to include.

anyway...I think my mom is a key egg. There is one key incident where my life, feelings, love seemed to have changed instantly for the worse in just one moment of asking for help. The very first memory I ever got (and most powerful) was... when I was in first grade and sister in fourth ...I was looking for her to walk home from school with and I walked in on a teacher molesting her.(from what I understand now once a kids boundries have been violated they(we) are easy targets for others...pluss perhaps our LOA magnet has been charged for it too? ewww) I wasnt abused then but he threatened and bribed and tried to scare me into keeping the secret....(Ironically>>he said it was all a game!!!... that is funny after reading some BL! brand new connection there!) Soo something in me felt empowered rather than affraid. I felt this was my chance to get help...seeing it outside my family, I knew then it was wrong and I knew for sure my mom loved me and would kick his butt!!!

So I ran home and and told her. She didnt believe me. I beat my sister there so I said ask sis when she comes in! I was sure mom would believe her. My sister lied and said nothing like that happened and that I was lying. In hind sight now I see why -she was protecting herself...it was her home room teacher . But I didnt understand at all as a kid.

My world turned upside down-heart into my stomach and my mom started grilling me and accusing me and I went mute...head spinning...thinking this cant be real. Lying in our family was a non option (we werent religious but we were raised with a lot of love and truth was god to my mom...she was a really good woman)...so to not just ly but ly about something soooo serious was to her more than criminal...( I now know she was molested as a kid too-and not dealing with it didnt have the capacity to compute her child being too).

I was punished severely and felt like I lost my mother on that day... Like I said before I was A mommas boy to the t -I guess who isnt when were little? She was God to me though and I worshiped her..in a natural child/mother good way i think at that point-I was sure of her love and my love for her...and I could deal with anything(even g-pa) as long as I had our love... anything after that though was all conditional. I felt like an alien in this house and tried for years (unconciousely) to win back my mothers love and my sisters till i turned teen and pretended I didnt care.Then she died.

Whew!! good thing none of that is real!!!!!!!!!!!! So i guess I am realizing the brilliance of my growth cuz I'm not just asking for help .... I'm asking on an internationally read puplic forum for the world to read....(and my coworkers...if they or I.T. should fallow the computers history!!) Not at work today though. smilie face. I used them all up.

So Grace could you correct all the false conclusions my little firstgrader brain made from that incident and reinstall trust, faith in integrity, ability to stand up and speak my truth and take care of myself and love and compassion for my Mother (and family).

Some trippy (good) things have started to happen since friday...I think my higher self is starting to mess with me. LET THE GAMES BEGIN!!!! this past weekend was fun!...at work! Thank you Grace for what ever you are doing!!! Much love to you. I hope this keeps up.

I just had a little mirror moment a little kid ducked into the door way Im sitting against in this shop. He looked happy and crunched down a bit like he was hiding...and then he jumped out to suprise a confused looking mother... and they both smiled held hands and walked on down the sidewalk.

I guess thats it- I'm just playing hide and seek with devine mother...who is really me... who really isnt worried.... because I am the hiding place...the one hiding ...and the finder... Thanks for your love and help.

Peace Blake

[Adrienne]

Grace

Hi grace.... well i am here asking for some corrections on Tristan... he is really angry.. not sure if it's cuz things are changing around here or what... he hides out every day in his room... self pity? not sure... change? could be all of it....
Or perhaps it is the mom, who is needing the corrections... perhaps i am worrying to much..

sigh... either way it is driving me crazy , he won't talk to me, and is yelling and rude and very disresectful..
I told him how smart he was the other day and he screamed at me at the top of his lungs....
although he is improving in areas around school... well starting to... and like i said in my last post, that he is showing subtle signs of feeling like someone cares for him... i guess what i mean is feeling that he is loved....
he is also pushing me away...
once again maybe it is just me... and perhaps cuz the family dynamics are changing it is also uncomfortable for me...
i would love some insight from parents..
or someone who has been through this...
i feel like i am being mean to my kid, cuz he seems so unhappy... perhaps if i don't react to this, he will snap out of it...?
help...
maybe this is where i get to find things for me at home and around the house that are enjoyable... and he will join in when he sees he can't affect me by withdrawing...
i don't mean to make it all about me... just seems to be challenging some of my core beliefs around parenting..
do i leave him alone for a bit, so he can adjust to things... or do I get after him...
if it is adjusting to things..
i am learning how my view of love has been very distorted for a long time...

[Adrienne]

Hi Blake

Adriene,

Thanks soo much for telling me of your experiences and sharing your wisdom!. I have felt much the same in many/most of the meetings I have attended. I do keep running across some people who I think have "really got it" though and put a bunch of them together and they can be really inspiring and a great light in the addictive darkness. That keeps me thinking maybe my hope is in the steps/meetings. Over the myriad of years (15ish) of going to different ones.. ACA, ALONON, CODA, ISA, SIA, SLAA, SCA, OA, FA I never had the trust/courage to do the whole 12 steps with a sponsor. maybe something in me knows its not my fit...I still think for one who dose the steps they work and they have saved millions of lives all over the world ( in just AA alone). I read that in the preface to the latest edition of the big book...how wide spread it is. Its all about connecting with our higher power and changing our thinking and doing service-giving back. Thats the core of most(all?) spiritual paths!! Maybe its not mine? It'll be interesting to see what Grace get when she tests it...

What you said about most of the world is addicted...I think that is so true...there are myriads of ways to find our distractions and our culture I feel sets us up to need those distractions. From our education to media and consumerism and even religion at times teach us soo much that we are lacking and will only find our wholeness or happiness if we buy that bright shiny new toilet plunger or control based beliefe system or get straight A's.

More so we just arent taught to listen and hear ourselves, our heart, our joy...and to discover where our love is. Let alone pursue it/them. There might not be enough cubicle dwellers feeding the corperate monsters with our time and energy if we all felt we deserved to use it for the growing of our own personal joy. Some people I say this too think we would all be selfish and self absorbed if we did that. We would stop taking care of eachother. I think the opposit would be true. We would finally have the inner well soo full of our own joy that our love and compassion would effortlessly flow out to our family, neighbors, communit...world. Maybe all of our joys pieced together WOULD meet the needs of our cultures and communities in a way we couldnt even imagine? We dont really need 3/4's if whats feeding our economy anyway....

WoW, how did I get there? I hate talking economics. If I did Im sure I would ahve finished reading that orginizational tensegrity thing. What I read was An inpiring picture of how we and buisness could interact in a concious world...creating win win systems. Win win rocks!!! (as Pamela might say)

Anyway... Adrienne...I am hoping my path takes a similar course as yours... where my vibration keeps raising and the old supports simply fall away when they dont serve me any more. This newagie tranfomation work on spiritual sterroids thats comming out of our(my) conciousnes now adays seem more fun than the 12 steps anyway. I do still think I need to learn self disciplin though....maybe theres a fun way of doing that?

Peace and (thats rootbeer)

hello.... thanks for your response...

I think there is meat in the 12 steps, but i think there is more... never finished the steps either, and have no desire to go back to them either... went to step 9..
i think many of us... people have alot of attatchements, so yes the older folk.. some of them have wisdom to share...
i participated for 6 yrs... and this could cover a majority of the world...
addiction is addiction..... some more widely accepted than others... either/or, it is looking outside one self...
it came down to this for me... once again i found myself in a box...
you will get there... and are doing AWESOME...
i think there are many things that will create change and growth, but unless we make it ourlifes practice, focus, and obsession.... we perhaps still remain attatched to the physical world... and what it means, and how important it is... whether things are right and wrong... stuck in the duality of it... none of it is real, and none of it really matters... we are creating it all...

I was asking a friend the other day... well more like sharing a question that came up for me...
If what i have experienced up to now has been so disatisfying and what i am experiencing now brings me the greatest satisfaction, peace, and joy i have ever experienced... then wouldn't it make sense if this was right? would it fit under that definition?
first i questioned that, cuz making it right would be within a/the duality of it... it is useful, yes... and to give it definition in saying it is right... would also make it real...
Soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
the conclusion i have come to... and personal understanding i have come to, and am at peace with is that there is the reality that come from looking within, and the reality that comes from loking outside of one self..(without)..... if i don't go within, then i will go without
Not sure if this is coming out the way i mean it...
my early programing was based on needing to be right..... then i had a phone call with someone from Brazil.... and man was i pissed... cuz it was like a battle... talking about spirituality, paths, matrix....and him about his beleifs....
wondered what the point of that convo was... now i see where it fits in.... letting go of the need to be right...

anyways i kind of wandered off.. so i posted this to share with everyone some insight i have had... this new perspective, will also minimize judgement...( i won't have to judge it as right or wrong) it just is... and in lack of judgement there is acceptance of myself and others, and everything i guess....

Oh ya Blake... i am for the first time in my life diciplined... also discipline meant i couldn't have what i want when i want it... and that is usually NOW...and it seems to be cuz of unconditional love.... Love is kind, but not nice...
it is showing with my son too, and although he is resisting the changes i am implementing, he is also acting as though someone cares... can't describe it really, but it oozes from his presence and is subtle... i read some where that the ego could also be described as the inner child...lol... mine has had many hissy fits...lol

Love is a huge theme for me over the last few months... HUGE
and very greatful for this...
ok i am done for now i suppose....
love and light...Goddess Adriana

[Blake]

....More stories from the Blanket...

I just realized I am the Blake in the Bla(n)ke(t)!!!!!! And are these all pooing up in the new posts page by making these seperate posts?....a bit more visible than I like...woops....silly. I was trying not to write one of my scroll scroll scrolly type novella posts. (instead its a mini-series.) This is my day off (first one in 9 days..overtime yeah!) and first chance to really bang the keys in a while....

Zart Girl!! Thanks for the encouragement!!! I'll write more later but I need to say this...you have inspired me and shown me real tangible hope seeing your growth... and building of strength ...and optimism.... and the calm widom you share in your kind responses to others! From the bits of story I have read so far... I saw some of the first posts you ever did in this forum. From those stuggles/mindset and fear to who you are now is reall cool to see. Youd make a great "poster child" for the busting loose book! and esm and Paths etc....Thanks for the metaphore! I love metaphores! Keep it up hot plate buddy! I'll repond to more later.

Peace 's back Blake

[Blake]

...and the blankets fingers are getting tired...

Bobi....That Free Will Astrology look really interestingto mee! Maybe its just all the pretty colors! Have you had you cart done there. What did you think?How was it different from a regular chart....maybe I should read more...Thanks for the info I love it when a link to a new "modality" or visionary pops up in here!!

Peace Blake