PATHS- Module Discussion ~Self Esteem ~ Confidence Builder

[Jane]

To help shed some light on the different PATHS Modules, and what they do, we will be posting the different Module descriptions in here so that you can share your experiences and ask any questions you may have about the Module. We look forward to your responses!



Self Esteem ~ Confidence Builder
Removes doubt & self-destructive thought patterns


This module helps you to create confidence in yourself by increasing your ability to be in control of your life and feel good about yourself and your decisions. It also strategically instructs the body to produce more feel good chemicals and hormones as you realize the competence and power within you.

Addresses:

- Increased self certainty

- Increased confidence

- Increase in serotonin secretion and absorption

- Increased endorphin secretion and absorption

- Increased chi

- Stimulate sense of humor

- Feelings of safety


Recommended Supplement:


- Spirulina for necessary Amino Acids


Recommended Duration of Use:

Self Esteem~Confidence Builder has several biological functions that instruct the body on more physical levels. These aspects of the module require continued use to keep experiencing the benefits. However, the new habits and behaviors encoded can often be internalized after only 60-90 days, providing long-lasting benefits and lifestyle changes.

[Rin]

Here is what I've posted elsewhere about this module:

"I don't know if my story can help, but I'll try: I started the Self Esteem module about a month ago, and although I noticed some changes, on the whole they weren't good ones! In some ways I even felt worse than before. However, I took this to be a sign that some much-needed work was being done on some very deep self-esteem issues, and I committed to doing the module for three whole months. I'm not a person who expects instant results, I was okay with that.

Then I read this about the Mood Elevation module. The explanation implies that the Self Esteem and Mood Elevation modules work best in tandem. You see, one of them works on the thought patterns, and the other on the actual body chemistry.

So a couple of days ago I added Mood Elevation as well. And bam! Today I woke up feeling actually quite good - the first time in weeks that I've felt this good. I just know that the Mood Elevation module has kicked in by correcting some chemical imbalances, and I also know that the Self Esteem module is working behind the scenes to create lasting changes in my negative thought patterns. I'm going to continue using both of them at the same time, and see how it goes. I only wish I'd done this from the start! It would've saved me a lot of misery.

By all means, give the Mood Elevation module a try. If it's not going to work for your particular situation, then you'll probably know it within days. It seems to kick in pretty quickly from what I can tell."

[Rin]

I have been on the Self Esteem module for a little over two months now nd have been feeling slightly concerned that it didn't seem to be kicking in despite my getting good results from the other three modules.

Until today ... because oh my goodness! I couldn't believe what happened. I was sitting and reading and minding my own business, when a blue-eyed stranger approached me and started chatting. He got as far as telling me that my eyes were "alluring" (alluring!!!!) when I suddenly realised, to my delighted horror, that he was trying to pick me up!!!!

Now I know that this doesn't sound like a big deal to any of you. But let me tell you that I am not a woman who men ever bother to hit on - on the contrary, they leave me alone because I'm invisible to them and don't register on their radars at all (not that I mind, usually). So today's incident was simply unprecedented! Obviously I'm giving off some brand-new "approachable" vibe, and I think it has a lot to do with the Self Esteem module.

Or it could've been my new mascara, but somehow I doubt it!

Well, sorry to say that I got so flustered that I ended up brushing him off. Looks like a need some flirty lessons, eh! "Alluring," indeed. I'm still tickled pink!

[marty1144]

good for you rin!!!! i;ve on my 5th week and i noticed immediate changes even as early as the 2nd day!at the moment though i;m feeling very self consciously around people which is a little disheartening but hopefully its just a processing of "issues" and i can become that confident guy i know i really am! i also added the mood elevation module in the 2nd or 3rd week and do think it helps..

[Aiming4Joy]

Hi, Rin, Overnight you've become Alluring? Wow, would that be great! I've been on self esteem and mood elevation for two weeks, so I guess I just have to wait a few more weeks for the magic.

Actually, I have noticed that I seem to care a bit more what I'm wearing (I need new clothes!) etc., and I wonder if that's what happened to you? New mascara, new make-up, new looks=alluring?

BTW, what's that brand of mascara?

Carol

[allenm]

Lol!

Hi Rin,

I enjoyed your delightful post just now and am still giggling about the mascara...
I have been on self esteem and mood elevation for more than two months without noticeable results (but then I am an OS person) so I am delighted to see what I can look forward to after the OS has kicked my stubborn subconscious into submission!

With gratitude and amusement,

Allen

[future pather]

I am a proud graduate from the self esteem module

I was on it for about 9 weeks and apparently don't need it anymore

I had started with this module because I really needed help in this area.

I had not been that way all my life at all. But for the last 4 years I was in a real downward spiral, feeling more and more isolated. I was feeling more and more down about how it seemed most people were pretty mean and I'd rather not bother with them.

In my second week of using this module I got a huge boost in my "chi."

It was like I got in this super good mood that just stayed with me and my physical feeling was much better.

To this day I have about 95% less worrying thoughts about how others treat me and about my life in general. Not everyone turned nice, I just sincerely don't care or worry about that anymore.

Slowly it seems I am attracting nicer people into my life as well

Maybe it was because I did not have a lifetime of trouble with this issue that I got such dramatic results so quickly (?)

It's been about 2 weeks since I swapped out the self esteem module for another, and everything I gained from it is still with me.

This has made SUCH a difference in my life!!

I used to tell myself that mean people are only that way because they are unhappy. Now I REALLY BELIEVE and feel that that is true and don't have to tell it to myself anymore. My thoughts are now spent on much happier and productive topics.

-Jessica

[nlivened]

Reason to Use Self Esteem ~ Confidence Builder

Did you know that low self esteem shrinks your brain as you get older?

"Dr Sonia Lupien, of McGill University in Montreal surveyed 92 senior citizens over 15 years and studied their brain scans.
She found that the brains of those with low self-worth were up to a fifth smaller than those who felt good about themselves."

Yikes!
Unless you're brimming with self confidence, sounds like you need to consider this module for sure!

Read the article about this study presented at a conference at the Royal Society in London:
Low Self-Esteem Shrinks Your Brain

[belle99]

Got it

I just had this one added to my Platinum module; I am hoping that it helps me with issues of second-guessing my decisions and giving myself lots of "yeah, buts" whenever I think about doing what I really want to do with my life instead of constantly jumping through others' hoops. I think it is funny that the graphic on the list of modules page is of a rock climber. I seem to have little issue with confidence for things that require physical skill; I will try almost anything.

But when it comes to standing up for what I want in career--well, that is a bigger deal. I was one of those whose parents picked my college major, and it was an older friend who basically picked my career, and a family member who talked me into the particular part of the field that I am in. Why? Because I did not believe in my skills when I was younger, and gave up on most of the things that made me happy.

Now, the part of me that has always waited for "permission" is going to get a bunch of Self Esteem instructions as well as the other modules I have recently added.....

[Kevin]

WHOA!

I just read the article that nlivened posted a link to on 6-2-07.

It is very interesting. Of course, in this kind of "study" there is always the question of what came first...the chicken or the omelette.

Either way, it is very thought provoking...I am going to post the entire article below.


Low Self-Esteem Shrinks Your Brain

By Pallab Ghosh
Source: BBC

People with a low sense of self worth are more likely to suffer from memory loss as they get older, say researchers.

The study, presented at a conference at the Royal Society in London, also found that the brains of these people were more likely to shrink compared with those who have a high sense of self esteem.

Dr Sonia Lupien, of McGill University in Montreal surveyed 92 senior citizens over 15 years and studied their brain scans.

She found that the brains of those with low self-worth were up to a fifth smaller than those who felt good about themselves.

These people also performed worse in memory and learning tests.

Dr Lupien believes that if those with a negative mind set were taught to change the way they think they could reverse their mental decline.

He said: "This atrophy of the brain that we thought was irreversible is reversible - some data on animals and some data on humans shows that that if you enrich the environment if you change some factors this brain structure can come back to normal levels"

Researchers are studying which psychological treatments work best.

According to Dr Felicia Huppert of Cambridge University - the early signs are that fairly simple techniques can have an enormous impact:

"There are interventions which talk about focusing on positive things in everyday life and savouring good moments even at times when life is difficult little tiny things may give you pleasure so there are skills involved in how to derive pleasure from the ordinary things in life".

According to Dr Lupien, the fear of memory loss may be a self fulfilling prophesy as anxiety leads to negative thinking which leads to mental impairment.

"If you always think it's normal to lose something, then you will never work to increase it because doctors have always told you that. I'm saying that it is not normal.

"So this might impact positvely on the public by saying that its possible to impact on increasing your memory performance and by saying that it is normal to have a fulfilling life, we may be able to increase self esteem among the general public - and prevent a lot of these deficits related to age".

[Rin]

Heh. So I graduated from this module after three months, but you can bet that I'm still dining out on the "alluring eyes" incident. It totally made my year, if not my decade, and I'm still telling everyone about it. (Every time I tell the story, the handsome stranger becomes younger and handsomer. Right about now he resembles Brad Pitt's long-lost brother.)

However, regarding this self esteem module, I have something to report that may not be so good, depending on how you see it.

First of all, you have to know about me that I am the sort of person who would never rock the boat. I would rather shut up and put up than ever run the slightest risk of causing offence to another person. Of course, this means that I have spent a large part of my adult life grinning and bearing situations that actually bother me a lot. But still, I've been okay with that, or at least resigned to it. I genuinely want to be thought of as a nice person, it's really important to me.

However, in the last couple of weeks, I've just been blurting out stuff without stopping to think about the effect on others. This has been especially noticeable in the workplace - a few times recently I've simply spoken my mind about something that bugged me, and seen my co-workers look so puzzled, as if they had thought bubbles above their heads with "WTF???" written on on them.

I don't mean that I've turned into a nasty person or anything like that, I just mean that I seem to be pushing myself and my own needs forward in a way that I've never ever done before.

In one way it's good, because it's as if I've become my own friend and advocate. But in another way it's not a comfortable space for me, or for the people around me.

I'm sorry if I'm not explaining things very well, I get so muddled sometimes! But do any of you know what I mean?

P.S. I tried taking the same route to work on several occasions, but I never saw "Brad" again. Wasted a whole lot of mascara, too! Oh well.

[tezzaa]

Rocking the Boat

Rin,

I know exactly what you mean. Thank you very much for the post. I have earmarked the Self Esteem Module for when I start PATHS and if I get the same results that you are I will be very happy. I too am a person that does not like to rock the boat.

Mmmm? blurting out what I really think? How cool would that be and how strange and alien to me !!! Yep shall definitely be signing up.

[Glenn]

...I have spent a large part of my adult life grinning and bearing situations that actually bother me a lot. But still, I've been okay with that, or at least resigned to it. I genuinely want to be thought of as a nice person, it's really important to me.

However, in the last couple of weeks, I've just been blurting out stuff without stopping to think about the effect on others. This has been especially noticeable in the workplace - a few times recently I've simply spoken my mind about something that bugged me, and seen my co-workers look so puzzled, as if they had thought bubbles above their heads with "WTF???" written on on them.

I don't mean that I've turned into a nasty person or anything like that, I just mean that I seem to be pushing myself and my own needs forward in a way that I've never ever done before.

In one way it's good, because it's as if I've become my own friend and advocate. But in another way it's not a comfortable space for me, or for the people around me.

Hi Rin,

I think it's great that you are starting to speak your mind. You have the right to express your feelings (hopefully in a dignified way) whenever you feel the need. Think of it as an expression of self love and empowerment, and have fun with it! (C'mon, wasn't it fun to see the 'WTF' bubbles over your co-workers heads?).

If you don't keep rockin' the boat, keep rockin' your world!

Terry - hope you have same or better results!!

PS. Rin - Brad's twin is still out there - you'll find him (or he'll find you - or both) or something better - when the time is right. Like so many people keep reminding me of late - just let go and it will come that much faster!

[Jamie]

Hi Rin,

I too noticed similar results. It wasn't that I was cruel or even blunt. But definitely more honest and straight-forward. It is really serving me well in all aspects of my life!

Way to go!

[future pather]

Rin,

That hasn't happened to me (so far).

Do you think the change of life mod has anything to do with it? (That looks like your most recent add . . .)


-Jessica