PATHS- Module Discussion ~Self Esteem ~ Confidence Builder

[Mariella]

Oh My God! This has happened to me too! I have also always been sweet and nice and not ever wanting to rock the boat...but, lately, I also have been blurting out all kinds of things at work! I can't hardly believe the things that come out of my mouth!

[Rin]

Thank you very much for your comments, everybody! Tezzaa, Glenn, Jamie, Jessica, Mariella:

I asked my subconscious for a clarifying dream, and here is what I got last night: "I am in a room with an older woman. She is a music teacher. She begins to sing, and I think to myself, I can do that! So I join her in song. At first my voice is wobbly. Then it becomes clearer and stronger."

So when I woke up, my first thought was, oh I get it! I'm just finding my voice! Perhaps it's not surprising that it sounds a bit harsh or discordant at first. And yes, Jessica I think that the Change of Life module may well have something to do with it, too (note the "older woman" in my dream, which seems significant to me).

This is exciting! Watch out Brad baby, here I come!

[tezzaa]

Rin you posted this on another thread:

Hey wow, did I really post this back in March? It's kind of hard to believe now.

Well, I've graduated from the Self Esteem module and you know what: I'm still rather shy, and I no longer give a ****, because shy people rock!!! Why was I ever so self-conscious about it? What a waste of precious life energy.

In the immortal words of Popeye, I yam what I yam. And that's fine with me! That must be the meaning of self esteem. I feel good.

I'm off to drop some spinach now.

I wanted to ask, in light of what you have posted on this thread, are you still shy?

Terry

[Rin]

That's a great question, it really made me think. I have to answer with, "yes, I'm still shy .... but, I've stopped attaching any blame or judgement to the state of shyness. It just is what it is. And I'm no less for it."

But let me elaborate with a specific example. A few days ago, when I received my pay, I found a small discrepancy not in my favour. It was so small that normally I would let it slide, for fear of being thought of as a nitpicker or troublemaker. (I've done so on many, many occasions in the past.) But this time I had no hesitation: without any muss or fuss, I went into the accounting office, stated my case, and asked for reimbursement, which they were happy to provide.

Now, the old me would've been utterly mortified at the very idea of sticking up for myself like that. The new me tends to think, "if I don't do it, who will?" So yes, in that way I'm definitely more outspoken.

And yet, in other respects I'm still a very shy and reserved person! It's just the way I am. I don't really want to change it. I'm fine the way I am, after all.

[Rin]

Okay, I have to post this. After all, it's the second-most exciting thing that happened to me all year (see above).

Today at a work function, a good-looking 25-year-old man (boy??) asked me for my phone number. Of course I refused to give it to him - hey, I'm a 39-year-old woman in the throes of peri-menopause, it would be criminal! - but one thing was very obvious to me: he was attracted to my poise and to my self-confident attitude, which was so unlike the other (younger/older and far more attractive) ladies in the room.

I was only on the Self-Esteem/Confidence Builder module for three months earlier this year, but the residual effects linger, and continue to pop up and surprise me when I least expect it. I had no idea of just how confident I had really become until today.

(Oh sh*t, I've just realised that I was wearing that mascara again! Perhaps that's what really did the trick! In which case, cancel all of the above.)

[future pather]

Rin,

You are hilarious as always!!!!!!!!!!

I think you have created quite a powerful association with that mascara

Remember, use it only for good

XO Jessica

[Keoi]

Rin,
If you are not already on the Sync module. You need to get on it. You can choose the five year back five year forward. Loan the five year forward to the cute 25 year old you use the five year back and meet him in the middle All is good!!
Ah yes and use that mascara daily
Aloha
Keoi

[Rin]

Yes, yes, thank you!

By the way, the mascara in question is a very nice Japanese brand called "Double Impact." I think it goes excellently well in combination with PATHS.

The other day I told my son about the young-guy-asking-for-my-number incident, and he said "oh, you probably reminded him of his mother." Hmmph! No wonder I needed the Self-Esteem module!

[belle99]

I'm back on this one too, and have been for at least a couple weeks.

I like it. It makes me feel very centered and grounded. I am less worried about what others think of me. It does not feel like an ego boost, and I have the same regard for my skills and abilities that I had before. I think it tends to work wherever you need the help, for me that was worrying about what others think.

The first time I tried it, it either didn't help or was giving me cognitive dissonance--I'm not really sure, but I didn't stay with it very long. I think it just has a fairly subtle effect for me, or maybe I wasn't ready for it before.

[kiran]

my experience

Hi

I've been on this module for 6 weeks now. I feel it has helped me overcome a certain amount of shyness.

I've also found that I am more blunt with my reactions to people. I speak my mind now.

I wonder how the biological parts of the module work.

Thnx

[belle99]

Kchannar,

This module instructs an increase in serotonin and an increase in endorphins, the body's own opiates.

I think it mostly tells the body to make more of these natural feel-good chemicals, and perhaps gives them as a "reward" when the higher self-esteem thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are chosen. Perhaps the admin could better answer this question or maybe searching the forum...

I don't think it addresses the reuptake of serotonin.

In addition to spirulina, I am also on a fair amount of St. John's Wort, which addresses serotonin on the physical level. My need for this herbal supplement comes and goes. It all works together.

[PATHS, S.A.]

belle99 is correct. There are many components to this Module, one of them is that as you have thoughts of self-confidence and personal worth you are rewarded with a "burst" of serotonin and endorphins.

[Glenn]

Since we have recently found out that Self Esteem is not only one of the most widely used modules amongst both men and women AND that self esteem is searched at an incredibly high rate on the Internet, I was hoping that more people would join this discussion and share their results and experiences so even more people can benefit from this module.

How about it?

Thanks.