PATHS- Module Discussion ~ Platinum Package

[angela]

Thank you, Ann! That's a great suggestion.

I find myself resisting it because I'm less interested in getting married in general than in growing my particular relationship with Danger Man even further -- it's not so much that I want to be married, but I want him to WANT to marry me. We have a committed, monogamous relationship going on, but I think I'll consider my little yearning a bit more to see what's underneath it before I make my own commitment of adding it to my PlatiPush.

I am very grateful for your response.
Love,
angela

[Ann-ticipatingSuccess]

I think I'll consider my little yearning a bit more to see what's underneath it before I make my own commitment of adding it to my PlatiPush.

The words of a wise woman.

I am glad I was able to help a bit.

Ann

[future pather]

"PlatiPush"

I love it!

-Jessica

[Kevin]

KP tip-toes around

Hi Angela

An interesting question you pose.

I like the response Ann gave you.

An additional idea may be to put some instructions in your Platinum about being in the optimum relationship (optimum=best possible). That way, whatever is best will be prompted (in the collective and individually) on your end and anyone else (Danger Man).

Another idea-instructions to make your self optimally appealing as a marriage partner. (not that you are not appealing, I am sure that you are very! I am talking as a spouse)

Both of the above should accomplish your goal without being manipulative, because no one should feel manipulated when asking for the best for themselves and yourself.

[angela]

Thanks, Kevin.

I like the "optimum relationship" suggestion.

When I think of myself as a marriage partner, I feel a lot of inner resistance. I want Danger Man to propose to me, but I can see that I'm pretty ambivalent about actually being married.

I think I'll add the "optimum relationship" and also "clarity about my relationship desires." That oughtta cover it!

[Pamela Vicik-Smith]

Have you thought about proposing to him?

[angela]

We've talked about it, and he says he's not ready. I can respect that, and don't want to force his hand. I just would love for him to want to marry me!

[firehorse]

Hi Angela,

Thanks, Kevin.

I like the "optimum relationship" suggestion.

When I think of myself as a marriage partner, I feel a lot of inner resistance. I want Danger Man to propose to me, but I can see that I'm pretty ambivalent about actually being married.

I think I'll add the "optimum relationship" and also "clarity about my relationship desires." That oughtta cover it!

Things might be clarified if the 'inner resistance' was resolved. In changing yourself, Danger Man may change

Your ambivalence about actually being married could be affecting any decision he makes.

And Kevin gave some great suggestion about getting the optimum relationship that may or may not include Danger Man. Also making oneself the best possible attractor for your ideal partner is a great suggestions as that was the route I followed

With love and gratitude
Alan

[angela]

Thanks, Alan. I believe you are right.

The same thing happened when we were first dating, and I suffered because I so wanted Danger Man to stop dating other women and to "choose" me. When I looked more closely, it was clear that I was waiting for him to choose me before I would deign to choose him! In fact, I was hedging my bets; keeping my options and my heart open to other men. So I pulled an experiment I had never done before: I went ahead and chose him, full force, with all my heart, and let go of the emotional bargaining I had been doing. No real outward action or talking, just silently chose him. What do you know? Immediately the dynamics of relationship transformed -- he declared that he wanted a committed relationship with only me, and that he loved me. hmmm. I had forgotten about that whole episode.

So today my thoughts are about: what do I need to surrender regarding marriage? What am I resisting in regards to the whole big picture? Do I need to just "marry" him in my heart? That's not resonating for me somehow, though, so I'll keep pondering.

If any of you wise folks have any words of guidance, I would be very grateful to hear what you have to say.

Thanks for taking me by the shoulders, folks, and nudging me down an unfamiliar path.

lots of love,
Angela

[future pather]

Do I need to just "marry" him in my heart? That's not resonating for me somehow, though, so I'll keep pondering.

How about "he marries me" in your heart?

Men are easier to get along with when things are their ideas

XO Jessica

[firehorse]

Hi Angela,

Thanks, Alan. I believe you are right.

The same thing happened when we were first dating, and I suffered because I so wanted Danger Man to stop dating other women and to "choose" me. When I looked more closely, it was clear that I was waiting for him to choose me before I would deign to choose him! In fact, I was hedging my bets; keeping my options and my heart open to other men. So I pulled an experiment I had never done before: I went ahead and chose him, full force, with all my heart, and let go of the emotional bargaining I had been doing. No real outward action or talking, just silently chose him. What do you know? Immediately the dynamics of relationship transformed -- he declared that he wanted a committed relationship with only me, and that he loved me. hmmm. I had forgotten about that whole episode.

So today my thoughts are about: what do I need to surrender regarding marriage? What am I resisting in regards to the whole big picture? Do I need to just "marry" him in my heart? That's not resonating for me somehow, though, so I'll keep pondering.

If any of you wise folks have any words of guidance, I would be very grateful to hear what you have to say.

Thanks for taking me by the shoulders, folks, and nudging me down an unfamiliar path.

lots of love,
Angela

Thanks for sharing your story. So you've already had first hand experience of this working

I would ask:
What does marriage really mean to you?
Why should the other person ask you to marry them?
How would that make you feel, more importantly, why does it make you feel that way and what does that signify?
What if you never got married ... ever?
Do you have any fear, why?

On the other side I would put together what the ideal partner would be and then determine what would attract that partner and then all you have to do is become that partner Then either Danger Man becomes the ideal partner or a new one will appear or something else may happen.

I needed to be persistent in holding onto what my ideal partner would be. It took me a couple of years

With love and gratitude
Alan

[kiran]

Platinum Package - to accelerate results/ time?

Hi

Can I use the platinum package to accelerate results of a particular deal?

For example, if I'm working on a deal that I know is going to happen, but instead of 6 months, can I have it happen in 3?

I wonder if sppeding up time would work here.
Any ideas, anyone?

Thanks
Kiran

[Pamela]

Yes!

Hi Kiran,

Yes, you certainly CAN include instructions to speed up a business deal with a Platinum module! In fact, it is my understanding that just about ANY desires can be included in your personal Platinum!

With Much Love and Gratitude,

Pamela

[kiran]

Thanks, Pamela

Has anyone had experiences with speeding things up with the Platinum package?

[belle99]

Hi Angela

I think I read what I'm about to suggest in a Florence Scovel Shinn book that I read a while back. If not, I'll give her credit for it anyway!

Why not put in the suggestion "My perfect soul mate (partner, lover, husband - whichever you prefer) proposes marriage to me within a year."?

This way you're allowing for something better (even if you don't think you want it now, or can even imagine it or even believe it exists) while at the same time not being manipulative with Danger Man. It also allows for the possibility that Danger Man IS your perfect soul mate and might help give him a gentle nudge towards commitment while giving him a bit of time to get there. It also allows time in which you might find that marriage isn't as important to you as it seems to be right now.

Just a suggestion (pun intended).

Good luck!
Ann

Those are good suggestions. I've worked a lot on issues like this in my platinum. I have a few thoughts:

If everyone and everything in our lives are "illusions in our hologram," then the work you do on "him" is really on yourself. You can't manipulate the unwilling. If working on your blocking something that you want (marriage) comes more easily for you to think about it through him, then he's giving you that gift, and I don't think that determines the result. On some level he is willingly participating in this dance....I know how you're feeling and you have my empathy.